“Seize the Day,” they say!
Ok, I have been called an idealist and a realist at different times, and I agree that I am both. It just depends on the day, or more likely the time of day. I can in one moment see the greatest possibilities and see absolutely no impossibilities . . . one of my most endearing traits, I must admit. 😉 But, at other times, I see the “practical” side of things. I see the things that have to get done and the hours I have to get them done in. Enter: My realist self. “Get it done.”
So, it’s no wonder that I LOVE the idealist side way more, and I LOVE to dream BIG, and see the possibilities more than anything else. I love being inspired and inspiring others. I love reading things like these to get my day going:
Forever is composed of nows. ~ Emily Dickinson
Wake up and live. ~ Bob Marley
Set wide the window. Let me drink the day. ~ Edith Wharton
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. ~ Hellen Keller
The future depends on what you do today. ~ Mahatma Ghandi
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin. ~ Mother Teresa
You live but once; you might as well be amusing. ~ Coco Chanel
Live as if you were to die tomorrow, Learn as if you were to live forever. ~ Mahatma Ghandi
Dream as if you will live forever; live as if you will die today. ~ James Dean
So, you may be wondering what this post is all about, then, right? Well, I have a kid that lives everyday as if it’s his last (yes, it’s Miles), and quite honestly, I feel bad for him. You see, everyday I drop him off at Kindergarten and as I drive off he hurriedly walks up the sidewalk waving fiercely and blowing me as many kisses as he possibly can, while trying not to fall because he’s not watching where he’s going, since he’s watching so closely where I’m going, and he has this look of dismay. It’s like he’s saying Goodbye for the LAST time, E.V.E.R.Y. D.A.Y.
Now might be a good time to expand on the subject of him being public-schooled and my two older girls being home-schooled. We homeschool our girls and we were going to have Miles home this year too, but he decided he wanted to go to school, so we let him. Day 1: He came home to exclaim, “I had a great day, and my teacher is EXPLOSIVELY AWESOME!!!” Day 2, yes you read that right . . . Day 2: He decided he didn’t want to go to school, in fact, he claimed to hate school. So, EVERY morning since Day 1 has been a talk about why he’s not staying home today . . . see the dilemma? Now, you get my life. And, I digress.
The point is, this morning as I was driving away, I had this mini-epiphany, that Miles is actually living everyday as if it were his last day. So, when he’s looking at me like “This might be the last time we ever see each other again,” – perhaps, he’s actually feeling that way. Which, really makes me sad for him to have to live everyday like that.
It occurred to me that he is like this all of the time. He rarely ever wants to play alone, and is most happy when the whole family is together in one room. It’s not enough that one parent be with him. If one of us has to leave to go to some activity, most of the time it saddens him. He is always saying, “I just want to spend time with you guys!” Even if we were out all day playing at the park, etc, he still wants to be with us together in one room when we get home to spend more time together.
“That’s so sweet!” I hear some of you saying. Let me assure you, you’re right and wrong at the same time. He is truly THE sweetest boy in the world, and when he’s with you, you feel like the most important person in the world. But, this way he’s living, like everyday is his last, is not so sweet! Now, I know you might be thinking, “C’Mon, that’s the best way to live!” But, it’s hard for him.
For starters, the mantra “Live Everyday Like it’s Your Last,” is incredibly impractical. I mean, really, let’s be serious here . . . Who would go to school, work, or the gym if it was truly their last day? Nobody.
If it was my last day, I would want to curl up on the couch with my family and read a book together, or walk along the beach together, or just lay in the grass and see what we could see in the clouds together. It would be simple, and devoid of anything that I consider tedious (like cleaning the house) or mundane, you know, the things we have to do everyday to make life work.
The point of the saying, I guess, is really to just get people out of their routines and motivate them to do something: BIG. Whatever that means to them. And, that is a good thing I believe. But, just humor me a minute and take some time to imagine a world where you wake up to find everyone is living this day, like it was their last. Honestly, one day like this might not be so bad. But, that’s not what these words to live by are encouraging us to do. They are saying to: live EVERYDAY like this.
If EVERYONE did this, imagine the chaos. I’m sure Half of the population would starve just waiting for this day to be their last- everyday, only to find out, Nope, not today. I say about half, because that’s probably the amount of stupid people we have in the world. Because, you know there would be those people who would be like that.
Enter: One of my favorite Memes of all time . . .
Yes, I actually did just add in those last few lines just so I could add this meme to a post. Done. See, I’m seizing the day!
Anyway, I think living this way would ultimately be miserable. Especially, when you wake up everyday realizing, “Ok, we have another day here, and I’ve already exhausted the amount of things I would want to do on my last peaceful day on Earth (twiddles thumbs) . . . now, what?” Which is why, I guess, not so many people actually live their lives EVERYDAY like it’s their last. And, I don’t condemn them for it. I think the phrase would be better stated, if not a little wordier, to say:
Live Extraordinarily, Live SOME DAYS like they’re your last, because You Don’t Want to Starve to Death, or Run Out of Last Day Things to Do.
Definitely, a much more practical way of living, while also feeding the idealist side as well. Real life. that’s how we do . . . But, how sad for my son who lives everyday like it’s his last. Oh well, he will figure it out one day, he’s only 5 after all.